Sean Akizuki's Personal Blog

So I want to marry a Western woman... and I guess I need to consider all that could go on.  In my case, I was having my thoughts on migrating to the West.  I'll need to get a job secure and all then of course, thinking of the Western standard.  Some things to keep in mind about cultural differences, maybe even biology.  I had my thoughts on whether or not it might be feasible to marry a white girl.  One could consider a conflict of culture, yet change happens.  It can really happen between an Chinese guy and American girl marriage but some of them work better than some American/American or Chinese/Chinese marriages.  But I'd work on marrying a civilian over a celebrity.  An examination of the West can be necessary of its values.  I was thinking of that what white people are in different areas like culture and values.  But these days, Chinese have started to become more liberal. But as far as concerned, I have met at least three half-w...

Well this is an iffy post but I thought that Chinese guys searching for a wife in other countries might as well marry white women.  In truth, the white people these days are probably more open to other races.  In fact, I just had my thoughts on why I think Chinese men might be better off marrying white women than Pinay women: Well the efforts of many anti-racists who fought for racial equality has changed white and Asian relationships.  Bruce Lee's mixed marriage and perhaps Wakin Chau's wife is American.  White men and Asian men started to walk together.  Bruce Lee's philosophy of racial equality had changed America.  However we do have a problem that the sickness migrated to the Philippines taking form of the Pinoy pridists.  Well in fact, I kinda have the urge to encourage Chinese and white people to marry each other to form a new race that's neither Caucasian nor Chinese. For starters, Americans may have a spending culture but as far as conce...

I was thinking about the fact even with Oriental Fanatics Celebrities blog, I am more or less inclined to like hot white American girls.  Now just my thought or a word of caution from my friend who looks like Pamela Anderson (whose actually half of a Swiss, not American), that most Americans are overspenders that if they can't afford it, charge it directly to the credit card.  Now my thoughts on possible pros and cons: Chinese girls So okay we're done with the days of pathetic martyrdom.  However some traits in Chinese women may not disappear so easily like they can become overly controlling parents (like Amy Chua-Rubenfeld did have that problem as she admits it) or you could actually also think some Chinese women can have too much tradition.  Maybe not.  But seeing modernization with Chinese girls, it depends where they are located.  So far, one benefit for this is more on agreement of culture.  In America, they're being more open then again, in ...

Although I am of Chinese descent, I did eventually take the liking to date a white girl. When I was still quite young, I did remember having my crush on a half-Spanish girl who grew up to resemble Rin Takanashi in a way but not really.  I just thought I was afraid to admit she was my real first crush.  She used to be slightly taller than I am before. Meanwhile I'll confess that also watching MMPR back as a child, my crush on Kimberly Hart was another reason why I was interested in dating white girls.  Stupid huh?  I would admit that for her, I really got too enamored with the fictional character's beauty to the point I even think she's hotter than most Power Rangers, Super Sentai and Kamen Rider girls. =P  That's just my opinion, no offense Mr. Smith but I disagree with your statement... hee hee. Then of course came some severe misadventures.  I did remember watching Tool Time as a kid when Pamela Anderson wasn't all marred up.  So pretty much...

Well I'm here to continue supporting Asian/Yellow marriages and other forms of intermarriages.  Ha ha.  I just love these photos! Source:  http://heatherparker.com/blog/2009/11/25/blue-travel-themed-multi-cultural-chinese-american-wedding-by-heather-parker-photography/

Well I have recently finished a book entitled "Battle Hymn of a Tiger Mother" and in fact it was a mixed family. So she did try to repeat the mistakes of the Tiger Mom parenting because it felt like it would always work but it resulted to her being humbled by a thirteen year old. Pretty much, it's a mistake that traditional Chinese parenting makes especially when it came to Lulu Chua Rubenfeld, her second daughter who had grown to rebel despite not being pampered because of the sowing of the opposite extreme. It made me think really, we really have the problem of Tiger Moms and Tigger Moms rather than trying to achieve a balance. Just made me think that every chapter of the book is a compelling story of how some Chinese parents can be too extremely strict while Western parents can be extremely lenient- either way it is not good. Please note that the book credits her as Amy Chua. Now for some insights of Amy Chua-Rubenfeld herself: Here's Amy Chua-Rubenfeld ...

Well it does pay off to be authoritative than to be authoritarian as both the latter and liberal homing system breeds the dangerous seeds of rebellion that causes abuse of authority and people who don't submit to authority at all. The problem with the traditional Chinese home is that they expect too much from their children. I am okay with authoritativeness since children do need to learn to hear "no" and to learn why it's no. But the problem with the typical Chinese matriarch is that no is no, she never tells the reason why to the point they become abusive mother-in-laws that nobody wants to be near with or would rather drown, get maimed, etc. because of their sharp tongues, overreacting attitude and the list can really go on. In short, it actually breeds rebellion just as a place without rules breeds rebellion. As said, want authority? Be an example. He who can't obey, cannot command at all. But the problem has to be that the traditional Chinese matriarch is, ...

If there's anything more stereotypical to handle -- it's the Chinese mother-in-law! They tend to be sharp-tongued, bitter, cynical, double standard, insulting, overruling, etc. You name it! Some mothers are only gentler when they are younger. However, they become cynical and bitter as they grow older. It doesn't get any better to have a Chinese mother-in-law. either There's really some bad news for these controlling Chinese mothers-in-law. Filial piety DOES NOT exempt them from the rule of give and take. The problem is in the traditional, typical Chinese society it becomes the norm that "Parents are always right." -- even when they are wrong. For me, I'm really just thinking that there's the need for Yin and Yang. I still believe in submissiveness and discipline but NEVER in a tyranny. Sad to say, Chinese mothers-in-law are pretty much some of the worst tyrants to handle. Blah blah blah! I just thought after rereading the Joy Luck Club, I thought it...

It's a problem these days of America's overly liberal culture.  I'm not against liberalism but hyper liberalism.  Everybody needs a degree of space and boundaries, liberated side and conservative side.  However America is stereotypical today as a "pampered state" in the modern era.  I have to be conservative on one side and liberal on another- I cannot be hyper on both. Between husband and wife: 1.) The overbearing mother-in-law.  This is to tap in the area of the Chinese man/American woman marriage.  Not too much on the Japanese or Korean spouse.  The problem can be the American wife might have to face with visits from the Chinese mother-in-law who can tend to think she's always above her son even if they're not living in the same house.  Mother-in-law problems are really an issue with a lot of Chinese people.  American daughters-in-law could really fight back really hard. 2.) Household budgeting.  Budget spending habits can be a...

In the past, it was typically a white guy becomes the savior to the oriental girl, however as times have changed it's really pretty much time to flip the roles of the white guy and the oriental girl.  So I pretty much am now looking at this aspect of interracial relationships in literature.  Hmmmm I just don't have the guts to write a black to another race type of pairing though I'm not against it but I'll probably try to or somebody could write it themselves.  Now an examination of the roles in fiction: The stereotype before was white was the superior race creating racism.  Then we have anti-racist whites who fall in love with the oriental girls and marry them.  Sad to say but Chinese culture in the past does have its own fair share of negative stereotypes as written in the Joy Luck Club.  However as time passed, oriental girls have grown less meek and more independent minded.  In real life we have Maggie Quigley's parents, Lisa Selesner's parents...

Well I can't deny it but the trend of Chinese men getting white partners can't be denied, it's no joke since China has a huge imbalance between men and women in some areas so why not fly west?! With some Chinese men suddenly becoming quite rich (and tired of their traditional life) end up seeking white partners. Some of them have grown taller or perhaps found some shorter white girls to sit their own taste. Regardless, it may be more than just a fad, it could actually be a better reality to deal with. The usual norm was white guy-oriental girl but now the reverses are happening. So what's there to it? For me, it's about time to end the negative outlook each other has and living Bruce Lee's dream. Bruce Lee by marrying Linda Emery and teaching martial arts to blacks and whites bridged the gap... and apparently built a super race! Wakin Chau's marriage to Constance Woods-Chau still remains stable even all these years... and yes a mixed marriage can work ...

Well looks like there's an exchange of women going on here... between Orientas males and White males.  So here's how a conversation could go in America or any white country. An Oriental guy would ask a White man to help him find a White girlfriend, in exchange that the Chinese guy gives the White man an Oriental girlfriend. :P I can't really deny that there are plenty of Chinese women who are quite attractive.  Just talk about Liu Yi Fei, Esther Liu, Zhang Zi Yi and Zhao Wei to name a few.  Okay the American's guy what he's got... On the other hand, I can't deny that aside from Orientals, where beauty seems to bloom is with the white people.  Okay not all white women are hot (take the case of most Power Rangers babes are inferior to beauty against Super Sentai babes).  Now the Chinese guy's got what he got- his White partner.  To be honest, attractive White girls for me are hotter than attractive Oriental girls.  A dating site for Chinese men seeking...

It can't be denied that there's always a DIFFERENCE between Orientals and Caucasians.  It's time to really see it at a different aspect.  While there's not much of a problem between a Caucasian man and an Oriental woman (well, adjust... adjust...) the Oriental males are stereotyped to be more dominating than the Caucasian man and Caucasian women are more free-thinking.  So what's it going to be?  Well it's time to do some balancing such as the husband being less dominating and the woman being moderately submissive, that is while she submits to authority, she however doesn't tolerate abuse.  I believe that an advantage of this mixed marriage can be that it would be time to even out the odds between the two and discarding the bad between the two.

While it's mostly expected in the past that Orientals are short and Caucasians are tall but there's always the reverse.  I may be Oriental myself but I'm at least 172 cm.  And another, based on the celebrities above Tori Matsuzaka is 181 cm and Emma Rose Roberts is only 159 cm tall.  That is simply an illustration that Americans are not necessarily super tall as some Americans are not so tall and Orientals as super short as Yao Ming is considered gigantic.  So it's back to the height norm- taller guy, shorter girl but only this time, the shorter one is the one who's white and the taller one is the one who's yellowish or pale white. So let's try to figure out how a tall Chinese guy could get well, attracted to a short American girl and feel more confident about it because he's taller than the white girl.  It could start with some emotional security, stability, well... perhaps some avoidance of the height issue.  As said, Americans are not always tall and...

After watching Forbidden Kingdom and The Monkey King that involved a white man falling for a Chinese girl, there can be a reversal for the scripts.  So I personally thought that most of the Chinese guy-American girl scripts are based on real incidents, I think they should at least put it in fiction.  So what's my plot?  Well, I would like to see a white girl fall into ancient China like Miaka did in Fushigi Yuugi and perhaps, let a woman's point of view fill in the scene rather than just having white men.

It can't be denied that there are Chinese men who are actually getting married to American girls and I think here are just some of the reasons: 1.) The gender imbalance in China  Due to gender discrimination in China, abortions are done to female infants before they can be born thus causing the drop.  Admit it- they've got to find a partner don't they?  Well, maybe not the top cause since they can also go to the Philippines to find a Filipino wife or other parts of the globe. 2.) Vindictive Chinese tradition has caused them to flee and seek a new life Reading through the Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan (which focused on the perils of the early Chinese women), some Chinese males may have had enough of the vindictive arranged marriages, the overly demanding Chinese traditions and the overly controlling way of life.  Going for the opposite extreme?  Well looks like it.  And what better way for them to actually be American than to get an American woman?  Hmmm...

  Can an Oriental guy find happiness with a Caucasian girl?  Well, it really depends if they can really accept each other and give up some customs for the sake of the other as some Orientals have given in to much Western beliefs and putting aside old folk beliefs.  I personally think they can.  In the first place, modern-minded Oriental guys can actually get along with moderate Caucasian girls.  Some Oriental-Caucasian marriages can run well.  All it takes is to really understand and adjust to each other and a give and take process.  However it's a problem among Chinese males to be philandering with women normally not of their race and what composes the majority in a nation- for example in America, they would go after whites or in Africa, after blacks. So far the courtship period is kind of crucial.  Some Orientals are more open-minded, some are not.  I believe that both sides should know each other, especially one another.  For example...

It's weird but true.  There are some white men seeking various types of Asian partners while I find myself seeking a white partner.  I don't know why.  However, in a memory rush... I did remember that... I did run across somebody who was half-Asian, half-Caucasian woman who looked somewhat like Pamela Anderson (not really that hot) before any surgeries were on her body.  It was during my student days and too bad I never had the guts to admit to myself that I am also attracted to white girls aside from lovely Chinese/Japanese girls.  I had no idea she was half-Asian because of her strong Caucasian blood.  Hmmm only I could get closer to her. Some things I thought about having a Caucasian partner: Improving the genetic bloodline... maybe. A more free-willed woman who can help me out. Chances of staying in America can be lengthened so doing business can be easier between here and there.

So I simply have to admit that between a hot Caucasian girl and a hot Chinese or Japanese girl, I would actually have a higher chance of getting more attracted to a hot Caucasian women. A little bit of comparison shall we? Here's a comparison between a hot Caucasian woman and a hot Oriental woman.  So I'm using Emma Roberts (white American) and Esther Liu (Chinese) and it's time to see where they differ in their hotness. Caucasian girls have a fairer skin tone over Oriental girls. When the hair is dyed blonde or naturally blonde, it just looks good on them.  Not so with Oriental girls- they look better with black hair. Well you can't deny they're both pretty in their own respects and sexy too.  However it seems that aside from just being finely chiseled, Emma Roberts' western features makes her hotter than Esther Liu. Actually it simply depends.  Case to case basis.  For example, Ayumi Kinoshita (who has Caucasian features) looks better than Monica May. ...

Well here's been some common misjudgments of Chinese to Western relationships: It's all but a one night stand or a fling. Sometimes we tend to ignore that some Chinese-Western couples truly and deeply care for each other and not just something to brag about regardless who's Chinese between the two. An escape from China to America or any Western country. It can happen yes but not all the time. For some Western women, it's because she was not hot enough so she got a Chinese guy instead. For some Western men, they're just bored with white so they go for yellow. Then again, some Chinese girls are really hot and so are some Chinese men.